So it's March 8th and I got reminded about a 100 times already that it is Women's Day. Do I feel any different? Do I feel like celebrating it or acknowledging it? No thanks; Not really! Anyhow, it got me thinking how a lot of women give a lot of importance to the men in their lives. They portray them as powerful, full of knowledge, virile, macho, responsible, rich etc. etc. And it doesn't matter which generation these women belong to, it is still the same with everyone.

Why does a woman need to justify something based on what her husband or boyfriend thinks. Why does a Mom have to say to her kids, "If you don't switch off the TV and get to your homework I will complain to your Dad". And why do we women believe that what the husband says or does is the right thing. Why does a woman never admit that her husband or boyfriend is jobless. Why does a woman feel the need to boast about how long and hard and how many number of times her husband or boyfriend can have sex with her.



Oh my husband does triathlons. Oh my husband is gifting me expensive diamonds. Oh my husband is taking me to the Maldives and we are staying at the Waldorf. Oh my husband can buy out this company in seconds. My husband, my boyfriend, my father, my brother! Gosh!! when will this end and till when will we keep going like this. How can women ever be free, independent and claim equality when we are so tied down to the men in our lives for every decision and keep seeking approval from society based on how capable the men in our lives are. Listen women who are reading this, society should know and appreciate YOU for what you are capable of, NOT what your husband or boyfriend is capable of.

We should really change this kind of one-sided male oriented thinking. I want to hear a man say to his kids "If you don't listen to me I will call your Mom". Or, "Oh my wife is taking me on a Europe trip". But all I hear around is "Oh my wife makes the best paav bhaji". So yeah, Happy Women's Day! and good luck all the women out there who are fighting for equality.

PS: I really loved this video; the only women's day wish I will acknowledge and accept today.
Scene One: Cafeteria
My first day in office in a first world country and an African-Dutch guy gets really excited and shouts out to the the others in office, "Hey! Now I'm not the only black guy in office, I have a sister Yay!!". I know he meant it to be funny but I just frowned and walked away since I refuse to be known as a racist by agreeing to what he said even if it was for fun and I do not like being called black in front of everyone. I did not expect to be welcomed with such a racist joke in a first world country.

Scene Two: Lunch room
A guy from a second world country (let's say, Ukraine) sits in an office lunch area in a first world country and talks about how his weekend was. He narrates his story to the rest of us about how he bought stuff from Ijnuk (a famous furniture store which majorly gets its stock from China - known as a third world country), and he discusses about how it was very tiring and vexing to assemble and furnish his new apartment with all the stuff he bought. After a while he sighs and says "Ah! these first world country problems!", and then laughs out loud. I seriously did not understand if I should laugh as I did not think it was really funny. Does he seriously think all of the people from third world countries have much different problems than him? Can the guy be any more racist?


Wasting a weekend trying to furnish one's house or trying to fix something is not even a problem in a third world country. I'm a middle class person and in my third world country I would have hired someone to fix my furniture. The middle class guy with first world problems (who's an immigrant and doesn't even have a first world country passport by the way. Talk about wannabes!) had to do it himself because he could not afford hiring someone to take care of the task for him. And before you even think about it let me clarify that it is by no means expensive to hire a freelance carpenter to fix furniture / woodwork in a first world country. In my third world country the middle class have a much easier, and convenient life than the middle class in these so called first world countries.

Scene Three: Pantry area
A conversation was happening about rich and poor people. A girl from a first world country (let's say, Israel) goes on and on about poor people in India and China. Umm.. aren't there poor people in Israel, I wonder to myself. And does she really believe that the entire population of third world countries is poor? Another girl (let's say, American) refers to some suffering tribe from some African region and looks at me in the middle of her conversation and says " sorry, no offense!". Hello! stupid bimbo from first world, I'm not from Africa, and I definitely do not belong to any tribe eating mud as food.

Scene Four: My desk
A Dutch colleauge suggests that I should get treated for an ailment in the first world country rather than going back to my country (since I was considering it). He innocently asks, does India have good hospitals for surgeries? In my mind, I was rolling my eyes and thinking, seriously! should I even bother answering this? A British Indian guy joins in here and complains about how worst the medical conditions are in India. Oh! by the way, the guy was born in India, migrated to the UK with his parents, and never went back; not even to visit his grandparents. I wonder, how does he know anything about India and based on what did he assume that India has the worst hospitals?

Scene Five: Conference room
The CEO of the company doesn't want to expand his business to Asian countries because he thinks it wouldn't help his revenue. While I know for a fact that concentrating his business in the first world countries did not help him get any profits; he wants to concentrate his sales and marketing in the same regions. Talk about stupid, delusional, and in-your-face racism!


As an observer from a third world country who hates labeling people and putting them in boxes, I find these conversations and assumptions really funny, shallow, anachronistic, and downright racist. Don't these people know that majority of the branded designer clothes they are wearing, the high end products they are using, and even a lot of brains working in their big companies to build their first world economies all come from the so called third world countries? And doesn't that mean that these first world countries can't even afford making their own clothes / products and hence depend on third world countries? So who's really rich and who's poor here? Or do they just consider it as modern slavery? After all, history does suggest that these countries have PhDs on using people as slaves.

In my opinion more than half of these people don't know what they are talking about. And one reason mainly is all the expensive media / marketing about life in first world countries. You must have seen a lot of ads and read articles about why you should live in so and so countries and which countries are the best to live in and so on. But have you ever thought where do these media and articles get their data from? And how do we know it is not tampered, censured or manipulated before presenting it to the world?  I've lived in both first and third world countries for a good part of my life and I have reason to believe that it is all brainwashed hog. And people who really believe this nonsense are brainless, shallow, and racist. There are rich and poor people everywhere in this world and that is the real truth. Don't believe me? Try visiting some slum areas in cities like Chicago, and New York or some ghettos in Israel and see for yourself how people in these first world countries live and struggle to survive.

The terminology "first world", "second world", and "third world" as I know was something coined during the second world war (I'm guessing by Americans who obviously want to conquer this world and are very good at marketing themselves. I mean, seriously, they sold their movies, their accent, their lifestyle, and basically everything "American" to the rest of the world.). All countries supporting USA were automatically first world, the countries supporting USSR were second world, and countries who were neutral were third world. So what changed since then and why did people start to associate rich guy problems with first world country problems and poor guy problems with third world country problems? Shouldn't problems just be segregated as rich guy and poor guy problems? Apart from being racist what do people really want to achieve from such assumptions and blind judgement? And for how long will this go on if it still exists in 2017!


So are you from a first world country or a third world country? ;) Or, are you like me who's from a third world country and living in a first world country? If so, what kind of racism do you deal with and how do you get over it? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks for reading this post!
I'm going to call myself an artist, at least for the duration of this post. As an artist and an art lover I attend art shows and exhibitions regularly. So at a recent art and crafts show that I attended, there has been voting to select winners in 4 categories: photography, painting, sketching, and handicrafts. Though all the artists who have exhibited were equally talented there could only be one winner in each category. So I was wondering, what  is the basis of judging someone or voting for someone in these shows? I asked a person who has no idea about art or what goes into creating it and he said that he would see what looks good to him and something that catches his eye. And many of the voters were either such clueless people or people who have a little idea of art though not completely. This really seemed stupid to me because art should not be judged by what looks attractive immediately but based on the creativity, technique, and effort that went into it. Technique and effort are something based on a lot of things like having the time to spend on it, having the money to learn from a professional, and having a lot of interest and patience. Again, not every artist can have the money to spend on professional training and nobody in the IT industry especially really has the time to spend on it with the exception of a few people. And anybody who's really interested in art will definitely put some amount of hard work in it provided they can get some time. To sum it up, I choose to believe that out of "creativity", "technique" and "effort", creativity is the only true thing.


Creativity is not something that can be learnt and no amount of effort or technique can make a person creative really. That is something a person either has or not. So shouldn't that be something that should be rewarded? I mean, if a person is creative and interested in showing it to the world, he/she will definitely try to learn and spend some time and effort on it to make his work look presentable. And that is what's worth rewarding and voting for.

As an art lover I couldn't digest the fact that a copied piece of exhibit from an art class, and paintings created with help from professionals have been praised more. Art should just come out of a person and not learned in an art class. Art should not be a copy of someone else's creation and should mean something to the creator. It should talk to you and touch you in a way that nothing else can. I'm not saying that the people who were praised lack talent or skill, they have definitely spent time and effort in creating something beautiful but if ultimately that is enough Van Gogh's paintings wouldn't be so valued and precious. His paintings were either his own imagination or a creative way of presenting something he saw around. And he definitely didn't learn from any professional.

This is one reason why I don't like an audience voting system. You never know what kind of people judge your art and based on what kind of logic they vote on your work. Honestly, true talent never really gets recognized or appreciated the way it should be.

So what would you judge a piece of art or craft work based on? Let me know in the comments below, i really want to know how you do it.
I think there's a huge number of reasons why marrying a person is considered so carefully. A marriage constitutes spending more than half of a person's lifetime with another person. This person is hence the most important decision one can make in their lives.



I believe that marriage is a support system that can either make you or break you depending on who you are married to. Following are some dos and don'ts I think everyone should consider before forming a union.

DOS
  • Marry a person because he / she genuinely wants to be with you and become your support system for the rest of your lives. 
  • Marry a person because they value the relationship and do things to enhance it rather than trying to find reasons to break it. 
  • Marry a person who's positive and stays positive / hopeful during tough times.
  • Marry a person who dreams of a life with you and takes action to fulfill those dreams.
  • Marry a person who values you, wants to have a family with you and has solid future plans.

DON'TS
  • Do not marry a person who's negative and quits as soon he gets a chance to escape.
  • Do not marry a person who complains and is ready to blame you whenever things seem bad.
  • Do not marry a person who dreams of a life for himself but leaves you behind or forgets to include you in that dream.
  • Do not marry a person who has commitment issues and does not want to be held responsible for anything in the relationship.
  • Do not marry a person who does not want to discuss things with you before taking major decisions about your life.

I've been married for almost 10 years now and trust me I do know what I'm talking about. Simple things like making sure you have eaten before he / she has dinner, opening the door for you because they know you have a bad hand, helping you carry bags because they are too heavy for you etc. They all show how much the person respects and values you and the relationship.

That said, one should not marry for wrong reasons either. Below is my list of reasons why you should not get married.

WRONG REASONS
  • Everybody is doing it so you should too. This is not watching a movie or eating popcorn.
  • It is the age to get married. No age is the right age to get married and it is never too late.
  • The guy / girl is rich or has a good job etc. This is not a business alliance and a marriage should not be based on how you want to depend on the other person for the rest of your life.
  • The guy / girl looks good. Looks are not everything. People age and don't look so good after a certain age. And a good looking person always does not mean a nice person.
  • Parents / peers are pressuring you to get married. Marriage is one decision you should make on your own because if it fails- at least it is not because of someone else's mistake.

What do you see in a person before deciding to marry him / her. Who is the right person for you and what are your reasons to want to get married? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks for reading this post :)
There's the US accent and there's the UK accent but us Indians have our own versions of hybrid accents. Its funny when I see Indians in the IT field trying to roll their 'r's and puff their 'p's and miserably failing at it coz it still looks fake and in their process of trying to be stylish they actually forget what they're saying. They also forget that US accent is not just about rolling 'r's and puffing 'p's, its about clarity, and talking slowly. Some of them just end up talking like old American grandmas when they do the dragging instead of speaking slowly. Indians normally talk really fast and that's the only reason Americans find it difficult to understand us and not because our accent is different. One industry I've got to blame for this misconception is the call center services. They have made sure that everybody is accent trained but alas! everybody already knows that the customer care services are outsourced to India and every American knows where they are transferred to for their calls. So maybe we should just cut the crap and learn to be ourselves more than trying to imitate others.

Before US, I have to admit that I was fooled to. I really thought everybody who rolled their 'r's are truly speaking American. And today after 4 years in the US, I still find a lot of people doing that, but now I find it really funny coz I'm able to differentiate the Indian version of American accent. Have to confess I tried it to, and learning an entire new accent completely is not that easy as the call centers make it seem to be. So I just stuck to who I am and what I've been taught, the Indian accent. In fact I found that its easier to communicate with Americans when we're using our own accent without the fake American accent.

One thing we have to know is America is a global market and there are lots of people from different countries who speak English in different accents and Americans kind of get used to it. Have you ever heard a European or any other Asian speak perfect US English without a little bit of their own accent getting in the way? I don't think so, unless they're born and brought up in the US, even then some of them fail. Heck, the Spanish living in US don't even speak English sometimes. In fact learning Spanish is mandatory in US schools and Europeans are considered royalty while we who try to so stylishly learn US accent thinking its something out of this world are considered common labor. It becomes ridiculous when we try to fake it and get into our own version of it. I've heard Spanishers speak Americano and it sounds like gibberish. Maybe what we speak sounds like gibberish to them too but that's another story. Trust me I tried faking the US accent and nobody understood a single word of what I said. I switch back to my own Indi accent and they clearly understand me, so why bother, why all the fuss and trying to be someone you're not?


Accent is not the only thing, I come back to India and see how crazy people are about everything America does, we are so dependent on someone else for our chic lifestyles. It is so tiring and I must say at one point it feels downright stupid what we're trying to do. America praises Gangnam style and everybody is crooning about it everywhere in India, America introduces some stupid mf thing and its everywhere here in India. I'm so glad to see pani puri walas still selling something on the roads, so maybe there's still hope for people like me. I'm not saying I don't enjoy wearing jeans and like wearing churidars all the time but let me tell you churidars are a lot more comfortable than skinny jeans for the Indian climate.

There's a reason why people in America dress that way and why we dress this way and its so much easier to keep it that way. Do you know how difficult it is to change your entire wardrobe from Indian to American in order to adapt yourself to the culture and climatic conditions somewhere else? Its hard enough to do it when we go pardes but coming back and doing the same thing here when it is not at all comfortable feels stupid and ridiculous to me. I wanna be desi when I'm in my desh.

This confusion happens to Indians in US too, God they're so messed up, they don't know whether to be Indian or American. Cummon people, its simple!!! wear what should be worn wherever you are in the world, I cannot wear churidars in snowy Chicago winters and neither can I wear them during the extremely hot summers, trust me coz coming from -20c to 35c is not a joke and even a churidar is too much on your skin. But here in India skinny jean is just unbearable in this weather and I don't get it how people wear such thick garments in such hot sun n flaunt it like they're in some kind of snowy place.

Its the same with products, I see more than half of the brands here available in India when we don't really need them. Heavy greazy moistrurizers are not really useful here, what we need here are sunscreens to block out all that sun and alas I don't find a single good one here, its a shame we're developing in such a wrong way. If we really wanna imitate then we should be doing so in improving the actual system, the roads, the traffic, etc., seriously why don't we get this? I'm probably making some very fake person person really angry right now.

If we want Americans to be in business with us all they want from us is good work for less cost, and timely delivery, not the stupid accent n skinny jeans in hot weather. And if Americans want to do business with us its also their duty to understand our accent in the same way we're trying to understand theirs. Stop changing yourself for someone else and faking it and making it easy for them. If they want us they can have us the way we are and even then they'll have a lot of benefits. Anyways in the business world we can never be sure, today they want us and tomorrow they'll go to some other country who can offer them cheaper resources. In the process don't become fools.

Attracting foreigners to India is good but what good is a big mall (bigger than any malls I've seen in Chicago), when the road in front of it and the surrounding area is filthy? Tourists maybe come once/twice a year. Build something for the locals who stay here forever. We don't need malls carrying unnecessary western clothes from US brands, we need a proper roads, transport, and traffic system. Does anybody else understand this nonsense that's going on? Please leave me your feedback if you do too.